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Julia ({{thisday|3|January|2015}}) is our daughter, first and, so far, only child.
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Julia ({{thisday|3|January|2015}}) is our firstling child, the elder sister of [[Luz]]. We keep track of all her achievements and important changes in [[Julia's evolution|this timeline]] and a gallery of [[Julia's drawings|her drawings here]].
  
<center><wz tip="Julia's eyes are of undetermined colors. Sometimes they are green, as they appear here in the church of San Juan Bautista of Alarcón, reflecting the mural paintings of Jesús Mateo (July 2015).">[[Image:julia-july2015.jpg|600px]]</wz></center>
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== Raising Julia ==
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She's growing extremely fast and is already {{#expr:({{#time: U | now }}-{{#time: U | 2015-01-03 }})/(365*86400) round 1}} years old. She seems to be a different person everyday!
  
=== Attachment parenting ===
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= Julia's infancy =
  
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* [[Parenting Julia and Luz]]
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* [[Lista de cosas últiles para bebé]]
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* [[Cuentos para Julia]] inventados por [[Elena]].
  
[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_parenting Attachment parenting] means to follow your instincts in parenthood which, in general, translates into being there for the baby when she needs it. That is, to pick her up when she cries, to breastfeed her [http://www.parentingscience.com/breastfeeding-on-demand.html on demand], to have her always nearby, to carry her around as much as possible (using [http://www.amormaternal.com/2011/03/como-usar-un-fular-portabebes.html#axzz3XgRZNAas baby wraps] or a [http://www.stokke.com/en-il/baby-carriers/stokke-mycarrier/2393.html baby carrier]), co-sleeping... As a result, the baby feels secure and nurtured enough ("secure attachment") to develop independence and self-confidence when ready. But above all, this is the most enjoyable way of raising your baby. 
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== Co-sleeping with Julia ==
 
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Some interesting sites:
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* http://www.attachmentparenting.org
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* http://www.crianzaautorregulada.com/articulos/por-que-elijo-la-crianza-con-apego
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The leading proponents of attachment parenting are William and Martha Sears. In Spain, the best advocate of "crianza con apego" is Dr. Carlos Gonzalez. He has written a few beautiful and fun books on the subject: [http://goo.gl/eunkTF Bésame mucho: Cómo criar a tus hijos con amor], [http://goo.gl/zdgbj2 Un regalo para toda la vida: Guía de la lactancia materna], [http://goo.gl/KlBWHg Creciendo Juntos] etc. Some interesting videos from him are: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VgLHJKtxcnQ El sueño en bebés]. He says things like:
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* La infancia es fugaz. Que nuestra obsesión por corregirla no nos impida disfrutarla.
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* Yo no dejaría jamás llorar a mi hijo. Ni a mi esposa, ni a mis padres ni a mis amigos. Cuando una persona a la que quiero llora, voy a ver qué le pasa e intento consolarla.
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* Malcriar significa criar mal, con poco cariño, sin cubrir las necesidades básicas del niño.
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La crianza con apego suele despertar muchas críticas pero todas son bastante [http://www.amormaternal.com/2011/09/desmintiendo-creencias-mitos-crianza.html#axzz3XgRZNAas rebatibles]...
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=== Co-sleeping ===
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It is a sensible and practical thing to do, as many [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlEyT8W5dOw people put it], although there are also studies and interesting books to read on the subject. The most famous one is [http://www.amazon.com/Sleeping-Your-Baby-Parents-Cosleeping/dp/1930775342 Sleeping with your baby] by [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XCZzzqFkyiU James J. McKenna].
 
  
 
Quite naturally, we have been drifting towards co-sleeping with Julia, not only room but also bed sharing.  
 
Quite naturally, we have been drifting towards co-sleeping with Julia, not only room but also bed sharing.  
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It feels completely natural. It also facilitates breastfeeding since it allows me and Julia to barely wake up and go back to sleep without any problem most of the nights. When she does wakes up, I know it instantly and can react quickly to her demands so that she is never fully awake, does not get to the point of crying and does not choke. Cry-less nights! Already interesting. But cosleeping goes further than just these convenient and practical reasons. I love to sleep so close to this beautiful baby, wake up in the mornings to her joyful smile. If she is a bit excited at bed time, I simply caress her and hold her hands for a little while and she quietly and smoothly falls asleep. It feels right and both Fabrice and me, enjoy it immensely.
 
It feels completely natural. It also facilitates breastfeeding since it allows me and Julia to barely wake up and go back to sleep without any problem most of the nights. When she does wakes up, I know it instantly and can react quickly to her demands so that she is never fully awake, does not get to the point of crying and does not choke. Cry-less nights! Already interesting. But cosleeping goes further than just these convenient and practical reasons. I love to sleep so close to this beautiful baby, wake up in the mornings to her joyful smile. If she is a bit excited at bed time, I simply caress her and hold her hands for a little while and she quietly and smoothly falls asleep. It feels right and both Fabrice and me, enjoy it immensely.
  
=== Baby-led weaning ===
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== Baby-led weaning ==
  
 
Baby-led weaning lets the weaning process in the hands of the baby. This is the method we have chosen and you can follow our progress in our page on "[[Julia-led weaning]]".
 
Baby-led weaning lets the weaning process in the hands of the baby. This is the method we have chosen and you can follow our progress in our page on "[[Julia-led weaning]]".
  
=== Growing up with several languages ===
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== Growing up with several languages ==
  
 
Cada uno hablamos a Julia en nuestro idioma materno, Elena en español y Fabrice en francés. Este es el método más practicado en el multilingüismo ([http://www.multilingualchildren.org/getting_started/language_system.html One person one language]).
 
Cada uno hablamos a Julia en nuestro idioma materno, Elena en español y Fabrice en francés. Este es el método más practicado en el multilingüismo ([http://www.multilingualchildren.org/getting_started/language_system.html One person one language]).
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Las primeras palabras de Julia fueron papá y mamá en el mismo día, mientras viajábamos en el tren nocturno de Moscú a St Petersburgo. Lo grabamos en [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mraOKFn2MeU&feature=youtu.be vídeo].
 
Las primeras palabras de Julia fueron papá y mamá en el mismo día, mientras viajábamos en el tren nocturno de Moscú a St Petersburgo. Lo grabamos en [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mraOKFn2MeU&feature=youtu.be vídeo].
  
=== Playful parenting ===
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= Pictures =
  
[http://www.amazon.com/Parent-Effectiveness-Training-Responsible-Children/dp/0609806939 PET parenting], [http://goo.gl/A3Oxnp Playful parenting]
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== Gallery ==
  
=== Education and creativity ===
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File:Julia-CerroLosAngeles-24Aug18-1.jpg|En el [[Cerro de los Ángeles]], {{thisday|24|August|2018}}.
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File:JuliaThinking-27Dec2018.jpg|Thinking, with pen and paper, on {{thisday|27|December|2018}}.
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File:Woolsthorpe-26Jan20-7.jpg|With [[Newton]]'s apple tree & manor in [[Woolsthorpe]], {{thisday|26|January|2020}}.
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File:Julia-30April2020.jpg|Working on a [[Julia's drawings|drawing]] (after putting some make-up stolen to her mum), {{thisday|30|April|2020}}.
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File:julia-Najarra-14June20.jpg|Pensative while [[hiking]] the [[Najarra]], on {{thisday|14|June|2020}}.
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File:Chepstow-17Apr2022-7.jpg|Julia in the [[Chepstow]] castle, which had a stonecutter sharing her initials, on {{thisday|17|April|2022}}.
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File:York-20Dec2022-27.jpg|In the [[York]] Minster, on {{thisday|20|December|2022}}.
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File:Julia-Party-17March2024.jpg|In party dress and makeup on {{thisday|17|March|2024}}.
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<wz tip="The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it. J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan">[[Image:room-child.jpg|right|150px]]</wz>
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=== Fourth trimester ===
  
"The best teachers are those who show you where to look, but don't tell you what to see". Alexandra K. Trenfor
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* [http://www.educacionprohibida.com La educación prohibida]: Una película sobre la educación centrada en el amor, el respeto, la libertad y el aprendizaje. ("¿Pero no quieres tener un título, ser alguien en la vida? Yo ya soy alguien en la vida!")
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* [http://www.born-to-learn.org Born to learn] is a fun, thought-provoking series of animations that illustrate ground-breaking new discoveries about how humans learn. Also [http://www.responsiblesubversives.org Responsible Subversive], a social network for people who want to connect and discuss how to change the world by changing the way we raise our children.
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* [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i07qz_6Mk7g ¿Te atreves a soñar?] by [http://www.inknowation.com/es inKNOWation España].
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* [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zDZFcDGpL4U Changing Education Paradigms], by [http://es.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ken_Robinson Ken Robinson]  [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL39BF9545D740ECFF&feature=plcp RSAnimated]
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File:JuliaTejeraNegra-7Nov15.jpg|In the mountains of the Tejera Negra, {{thisday|7|November|2015}}.
* [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqK-AJyOZEk Where good ideas come from?], by [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steven_Johnson_(author) Steven Johnson], RSAnimated
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* [https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=u6XAPnuFjJc Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us], by [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dan_Pink Dan Pink], RSAnimated
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* [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l7AWnfFRc7g The Empathic Civilisation] (by [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeremy_Rifkin Jeremy Rifkin], RSAnimated)
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* [https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=siu6JYqOZ0g What if money was no object?] by [http://es.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alan_Watts Alan Watts]
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* [[File:On_the_Psychology_of_Scientific_Creativity--Migdal.pdf]] by A. B. Migdal (L. D. Landau Institute of Theoretical Physics, Moscow), Contemporary Physics, 20, 121 (1979).
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==== Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE) ====
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Emmi Pikler & Magda Gerber
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* http://www.magdagerber.org/
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* http://pikler.org/PiklerPractices.html
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* http://www.janetlansbury.com/2013/12/rie-parenting-basics-9-ways-to-put-respect-into-action/
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* http://babygooroo.com/2014/04/rie-parenting/
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[http://goodjobandotherthings.com/pov/rie/what-does-it-mean/ What is it?]
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[http://www.essentialbaby.com.au/baby/baby-education-and-play/the-truth-about-rie-parenting-20140217-32v3i.html Summary from an article]:
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1. Talk to your baby
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RIE recommends informing your baby about what you are going to do before you do it, such as ‘I’m going to pick you up now’. This doesn’t mean that lullabies and gooing and gagaing are out. Rather, it means that children will be less anxious if they are told what is going to happen to them before it happens. It will also help with their language development.
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‘When your baby cries…wait,’ writes Carlisle Solomon.
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This isn't laziness or neglect. Instead, it allows you to observe and work out the cause of the distress, and it gives your baby the opportunity to learn how to self-soothe and the freedom to express their emotions.
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‘Don’t distract your baby from her feelings by bouncing her on your knee or singing a cheery song,’ writes Carlisle Solomon. ‘Trying to jolly your baby out of crying will only make her feel disconnected and out of tune with you. Imagine if you were upset and your trusted other responded with a big grin, spoke in a singsongy voice, and tried to humor you out of it.’
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‘If you choose to offer a pacifier, it’s very important that as soon as you see your baby push the pacifier out of her mouth when it’s offered, you put it away.’
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‘Babies should never be coaxed, cajoled, or forced to eat. They should eat however much they want, and not one bite more!’ writes Carlisle Solomon.
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‘To help baby learn to eat when he’s hungry and stop eating when he’s satiated, we need to observe closely so that we’re attuned to his cues. Then we need to honor what the baby communicates to us.’
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‘Of course, if your baby’s crying is ramping up and she’s sounding distressed, then by all means, go into her room to reassure her. It’s best to go to her before she’s so over-wrought that she needs a lot of help to calm.’
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‘When an adult routinely steps in to solve every little, or big problem, a baby can quickly learn to look for help rather than attempt to find a solution for himself, and giving up and relying on an adult for every little thing becomes a habit,’writes Carlisle Solomon.
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'''According to this philosophy, the more passive the toy, the more active the child needs to be to play with it.'''
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? Allow your baby to participate in childcare. Tell your child what you'll do before you do it. Informing him about what will happen next -- like a diaper change -- can help him feel more secure and lead to two-way communication down the road, says O'Sullivan.
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* http://piklerexperience.blogspot.com.es/2012/01/montessori-vs-pikler.html
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File:Julia-1stTrimester-2.jpg|y a su bisabuela Modesta.
 
File:Julia-1stTrimester-2.jpg|y a su bisabuela Modesta.
 
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File:Julia-4-meses-03--gorro-rosa.JPG|Mayo 2015.
 
File:Julia-4-meses-03--gorro-rosa.JPG|Mayo 2015.
 
File:Julia-4-meses-04--sombrero-margaritas.JPG|Mayo 2015.
 
File:Julia-4-meses-04--sombrero-margaritas.JPG|Mayo 2015.
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File:Julia-november-2015-DSC_0652.JPG|Primeros zapatitos de Julia (de piel), Octubre 2015.
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File:Julia-november-2015-DSC_0654.JPG|Gorro-bufanda para el invierno, Octubre 2015.
 
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== Regalos de Julia y para Julia ==
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== Regalos de Julia ==
  
=== Cumple de papá ===
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=== De Julia: Cumple de papá ===
  
 
Para su 38 cumpleaños, el 30 de septiembre de 2015 (usando el programa [http://plasq.com/apps/comiclife/macwin Comic life]):
 
Para su 38 cumpleaños, el 30 de septiembre de 2015 (usando el programa [http://plasq.com/apps/comiclife/macwin Comic life]):
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Por Papá Noel 2017: un llavero con su foto del tren del Ríotinto.

Latest revision as of 11:59, 19 March 2024

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Julia (3 January (2015)) is our firstling child, the elder sister of Luz. We keep track of all her achievements and important changes in this timeline and a gallery of her drawings here.

Julia-Pedriza-22May2022.jpg

She's growing extremely fast and is already 9.3 years old. She seems to be a different person everyday!

Contents

Julia's infancy

Co-sleeping with Julia

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Quite naturally, we have been drifting towards co-sleeping with Julia, not only room but also bed sharing.

For her first month, Julia would sleep in our baby stroller cradle, which in our case is removable. We started by placing it on the floor, next to my side of the bed, in order to see her from above during her sleep. Soon enough Fabrice suggested to plug her onto our (large, 160cm-) bed, between us, and that worked even better since I could help her to sleep quite easily without getting up. Just stroking her head or putting back her fallen-out pacifier. Still, after a couple of weeks, it felt like that extra barrier was not needed and things could be made even easier. Even being so physically close to us, Julia would wake up the moment she was placed in the cradle if not deeply asleep. This was annoying... Specially at 3am after gently and quite successfully breastfeeding her to sleep. Furthermore, the fact that we had a trip to France soon ahead of us made me wish we did not need the cradle (we have a rather small car).

By the second month we decided to remove it completely. We placed Julia on the bed, between us, on her little mattress (in order to give us a sense of the room she was taking) and barricaded by Fabrice's side with a pillow. They say that breastfeeding mothers are really tuned to their babies and would never roll onto them, also tend to synchronise their sleep patterns. I quickly realised that this was completely true and I sleep happily in close proximity without any fear. However, for fathers, things are not as natural. They typically fall into a much deeper sleep and need time to develop the instinct to keep the baby safe. This is why we have this pillow, that is covered by a sheet so that it is fixed and there is no risk of falling on top of Julia.

We also follow all the usual recommendations not to have extra pillows or toys or blankets in bed, not to leave any space where she could fall into and not take drugs or alcohol.

It feels completely natural. It also facilitates breastfeeding since it allows me and Julia to barely wake up and go back to sleep without any problem most of the nights. When she does wakes up, I know it instantly and can react quickly to her demands so that she is never fully awake, does not get to the point of crying and does not choke. Cry-less nights! Already interesting. But cosleeping goes further than just these convenient and practical reasons. I love to sleep so close to this beautiful baby, wake up in the mornings to her joyful smile. If she is a bit excited at bed time, I simply caress her and hold her hands for a little while and she quietly and smoothly falls asleep. It feels right and both Fabrice and me, enjoy it immensely.

Baby-led weaning

Baby-led weaning lets the weaning process in the hands of the baby. This is the method we have chosen and you can follow our progress in our page on "Julia-led weaning".

Growing up with several languages

Cada uno hablamos a Julia en nuestro idioma materno, Elena en español y Fabrice en francés. Este es el método más practicado en el multilingüismo (One person one language).

Las primeras palabras de Julia fueron papá y mamá en el mismo día, mientras viajábamos en el tren nocturno de Moscú a St Petersburgo. Lo grabamos en vídeo.

Pictures

Gallery

Fourth trimester

Second trimester

First trimester

Intrauterine

First costume of Julia for Halloween 2014:

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Links

Regalos de la abuela

Regalos de Julia

De Julia: Cumple de papá

Para su 38 cumpleaños, el 30 de septiembre de 2015 (usando el programa Comic life):

Por Papá Noel 2017: un llavero con su foto del tren del Ríotinto.